I often write about Heart Moms, and how much they stand up for their Cardiac Kid. Mess with their child, and you’ve just unleashed a force you do not want to deal with.
Very few times do we hear about the other half of the equation: the Heart Dads. Heart Dads have to change their entire outlook on life, and it goes against everything that Dads stand for. A good dad wears many hats, but his main job is to protect and defend his family. He provides them with a stable home and makes sure everyone has their daily needs met. And then the parents learn that their child has a major illness.
“Take care of the family”… how exactly do you fight something like a heart defect? “As best you can,” or “One day at a time,” are the usual answers, but those words don’t help. A Heart Dad may feel like a failure because this is something he can’t solve, a problem he can’t fix. Hitting the wall and shouting “I just don’t know what to do!” won’t help, so men bite it back and keep our frustrations inside. And it eats at us.
You have to trust people who you’ve probably just met with your child’s life, and for a father, that is very hard to do. Take my child away and do surgery? No way. That’s probably why men seem to have so much difficulty in the Surgical Waiting Rooms. Because real men take care of their own problems.
No… a real man understands that as much as he want to fix this problem himself, he can’t do it. So he does the only thing that he can do: he finds someone who can make everything better.
He gives his child a fighting chance.
Happy Father’s Day to the dads of sick kids everywhere