A little more than a week ago I volunteered for The Blogger Interview, an exercise intended to help bloggers learn more about our fellow writers and perhaps introduce our readers to other blogs that they may find interesting. One of the rules of The Blogger Interview is that you offer others a chance to participate, and Kim from The CHD Blog has risen to the occasion. So below, you’ll have the opportunity to meet her. Kim is a Heart Mom; her daughter was born with Transposition of the Great Arteries with an associated Atrial Septal Defect and Ventricular Septal Defect.
The Challenge is STILL open… we’d love to hear from any Survivors or Heart Parents (or Medical staff!) who would be willing to take the challenge!
And now, Kim. My questions are in bold, and her answers are in plain text:
Were you a blogger before you created the CHD Blog?
Yes, I have a personal blog, Herding Cats, that I created immediately after my daughter was diagnosed with a CHD. The hospital I was at didn’t tell me about Caring Bridge or CarePages, so I winged it – I created a blog to keep family and friends informed. It was a great way to vent, to organize my thoughts and to share news without having to repeat myself. Since then, it’s grown into a sounding board and a way to stay in touch with friends and family outside my immediate area. I started and just can’t stop! (Kim doesn’t mind if you stop by, but she reminds us that it is her personal blog, so not everything is CHD related. There are “lots of brain droppings there!”). It’s the cheapest form of therapy I’ve found to date.
The CHD Blog was born last year on a whim. I realized only a couple of weeks before February that there was a CHD awareness week. I wanted to do something. When my daughter was diagnosed, I felt alone in a vast sea… even the Internet couldn’t provide the answers I craved. The connections I wanted. Or a quick resource to get the information I needed. I thought that perhaps a portal could be created that was not affiliated with any organization, completely (or mostly) unbiased and for the general public’s consumption. That’s why the CHD Blog was born.
What have you learned from other Heart Moms and Dads?
After a long night of trying to wrap my mind around the situation and my reaction, I decided to change immediately how I was dealing with the trauma. I refused to let myself go down that “shocked” road again. My mode de operand since has been to push all emotions aside and to get analytical and realistic when faced with life-death situations. Of course, there are a lot of drawbacks to ignoring emotions and refusing to allow shock to take over – it only gives them opportunity to fester and grow, and it’s often ugly to deal with their neglected mutations after the emergency has passed. But it has helped me to become a better advocate in traumatic situations. Some people comment on this being a strength, but in fact it is not. It’s a total weakness – I admire other parents and patients that can cope with the emotional aspects of medical trauma while it is in progress.
What is your wish for your daughter?